To his very last days, Dad’s life was instructive. As he aged, he taught us how to grow with dignity, humor, and kindness. And when the good Lord finally called, he showed us how to meet him with courage and the joy of the promise of what lies ahead.
— George W. Bush’s Eulogy for His Father

Generally speaking, most people’s fate is shaped by the mastery of destiny. I strive to engage in all aspects of life with energy and gratitude. Now that I am retired and my children are grown, I find myself asking: What are my choices, and how do I plan my road map now? As the statement above suggests, I, too, hope to age with dignity, humor, and kindness.

The year 2018 has been a period of self-reflection. While I can’t say I’m not afraid of getting older or, eventually, dying, I’m determined to make the most of it. My first mission is to conquer that fear. I also feel that I still have my talents and life experiences to offer. How can I utilize them? I dreamed of being a writer or performer when I was young. How can I pursue those unfinished fantasies? After much thought, I realized that my next step is to triumph over fear and begin anew.

What have I accomplished this year?

First, I’ve come to realize that I cannot have a rigid plan. Retirement, like any stage of life, requires flexibility and often demands trade-offs under changing circumstances.

This year, I have volunteered in a special needs program at Ro’s elementary school. The classroom consists of children with various disabilities. Despite my 15 years of Sunday school teaching experience, I’ve found this to be one of the most challenging tasks I’ve faced. One day, a boy became uncontrollable and exhibited aggressive behavior, crying so hard that his face was drenched with tears. Without thinking, I embraced him tightly and whispered, “You’re okay.” Slowly, he calmed down and leaned on my shoulder. At that moment, I realized the profound power of love and acceptance. These children have made me better, opening a wellspring of love within me that I hadn’t known before.

Yong continues to volunteer at the Tech Museum, where he enjoys exploring the latest advancements in technology. I’ve written a few articles and joined the church choir, where we recently performed our Amazing Christmas concert. In April, we took a memorable trip to Eastern Europe with our retired friends, and in the fall, we joined May’s family on a Disney cruise. This holiday season, we’ll be visiting Lego Land in San Diego with Chi’s family. We are truly blessed with many enjoyable moments in retirement.

Our children and four granddaughters are all doing well. Wei, at 10 years old, has achieved success in many areas. Ro continues to progress with small, steady steps. Le’s musical and speaking talents are clearly inherited from her parents. Our youngest, Qing—how can I describe her? She is an angel from heaven. Both Le and Qing turned 3 this year. They are all so unique, but their precious and lovely personalities share a common thread of joy and warmth.

Our granddaughters’ winter concert featured the song “Imagine” by John Lennon:

During this holiday season, let us pray for peace and for those who are less fortunate in the world.

It is Christmas time again, and as I sit at my desk reflecting on this year, I hope that you are all well. We want to wish you a graceful 2019. May God bless you, always.